@pursuit0fhoppiness I would highly recommend a pH meter in the future if you plan to continue to do kettle sours. However, for one I think we can get you through it. What souring agent are you using?
I've done a few now and I use Omega OYL-605 Lacto for the souring. In approx. 36-40 hours, it drops down to a pH of 3.3 which is fairly sour. Reminds me of the sourness of the Destihl Wild Sour series.
I'm going to disagree with
@gypsyhead slightly. You should not see attenuation at all, at least using Omega's lacto. The most attenuation you might see is 1 or 2 points, but it should not be more than that. Here is my process when doing a kettle sour...
1. Perform Mash and lauter to boil kettle as normal.
2. Perform short (10 min) boil just to make sure all unwanted bugs are dead.
3. Chill to 100*F (Double check the temp range of whatever souring agent you are using. This is specific to OYL-605)
4. Pre acidify wort to a pH of 4.0-4.4 using 88% Lactic Acid (I want to say this was like 3 tsp per 5 gallons if I remember correctly)
5. Pitch the lacto
6. Cover the kettle with plastic wrap and wrap the sides of the kettle with a couple layers of tin foil (Not 100% necessary but I feel like it helps hold in heat)
7. Put thermometer in wort through the plastic wrap with gauge on outside of plastic wrap so you can read temperature.
8. Keep kettle on stove (if able to do so) so that if temp gets to the low side, can turn on the stove and heat it up if need be.
9. Once wort is at desired sourness, perform rest of process as usual.
Like I said, you should be able to do this without a pH meter but I highly recommend one.