I'm not doing a starter. I use the liquid Wyeast pouch and yes aerating the wort when I pitch. I thought that it might be an issue with attenuation but I wasn't sure because I'm new to brewing and also becuase my friend is getting the same flavors. It's most likely under-attenuated because one of his batches came out pretty flat and was basically bottled wort. So are the yeast dying? How do I achieve full attenuation?
Yikes, well first try getting us your OG, FG's and expected of both for the recipies.
As to the yeast, are they propogator packs? or activator packs? And did you smack them first? You friends sound like his was a problem with the yeast. I'm inclined to think if you are getting the same flavor, that under performing yeast could be your problem. There are a lot of things that can be done to improve yeast performance.
In order of how easy they are to do/equipment needed to do them.
1. Good aeration. Think you stired your wort enough? nope stir it some more. Alternativly get an O2 tank and an aerator stone and really get some O2 in there - obviously stiring is easier.
2. Pitch enough yeast - this means using a starter. consult an online calculator (like mr malty
http://www.mrmalty.com/calc/calc.html) for how much you need and the starter. Basically you make a 1.040 wort of about 1 to 2 liters and pitch the yeast in a few days before you are going to brew.
3. Temp control of the brew - but this requires a fermentation chamber setup, either something simple like a swamp cooler (large ruber maid bin with water in it and the fermentor in that bin also, helps stablize temps) or more complicated like a refridgerator with automatic temp control.
4. something I'm probably missing that someone else will mention.
I'd start with 1 and 2 as they are easiest to do right away.