170 is danger territory... getting above 170 can cause tannins to get in your beer and give it a bitter taste. Most people suggest keeping steeping temperatures between 155 and 160. What I like to do is bring the temperature of the water to between 160 and 162 degrees, then turn off the heat. As soon as the heat is off, add the steeping grains and let them soak for at least 20 minutes (I usually soak 30 to 40 minutes.) Do not attempt to reheat during this time. If you must add heat, make sure the temp never goes above 165.
When 30 minutes is up, remove the grains (do not squeeze the bag, or you will get more tannins!) and start the boil...
It really is pretty easy. Not too sciency or anything.