For my oatmeal stouts, I usually mash at 152-154 for 60 minutes, single infusion. I mash with 16 quarts and sparge with 4.4 gallons at 170.
My chocolate malt is at 9 oz and my Roasted Barley is 5 oz. I also use 1# of C60 to help add color, but I've made the recipe without it and it came out just as dark. It has a nice creamy mouthfeel to it as well.
My suggestion, like those previous to me, double check your grains. Ensure that you are getting what you're ordering. Make sure the grind is where you want it to be, too. Lastly, work on mash temp and time. Good luck on your next brew.