First beer/bhut jolokia...
Well.....that is one way to learn. The slow way to be sure, but learn nonetheless you will.
Alcohol and capsaicin are an insane collaboration.
Imagine that capsaicin is measured in IBU's....
a 4 million IBU beer is bitter as hell, but your tongue can't taste all of it.
Heat is different. The ghost pepper is 4 million IBUs if you bite into one, but your tongue can only taste so much as you froth and choke.
5 gallons of beer will take all of that heat and spread it out. Getting ALL of it.
Your beer will be a novelty.
People who put 8 bhuts in chili and "all of the other people around" like it are not human like you or me. You don't even find those kind of humans in a fire house. My chili is too hot for the firemen I know.