StonesBally
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Here's a NEIPA, came out great, and a CAP, also pretty good. I may not brew for quite some time after about 10 years at it. I think I've become quite a decent brewer. My wife and kids moved put about 3 months ago. I was blindsided. She has not asked for divorce, but doesn't seem to want to reconcile. I brewed these beers about 6 weeks ago. The thought of brewing another seems pointless as I dont know how long I'll be here able to brew or keg. They moved to my mother and father in law's house about 10 minutes away. I've been living in our home one since. It feels like living in a museum of our lives, only I'm stuck there. Nearly every single friend has taken her side, many of which I've been friends with since before I met my wife. I know I have had some serious issues in life and our marriage has been more about our daily routine of kids and work lately. I've made every effort to try and work on our problems and try to move forward. She said she wanted to try and save the marriage and offered to go to counseling. I am completely open and willing to do so. She avoids talking about it or making any kind of plan to reconcile or move on. She left with and email when she and the kids were gone one day. I dont think the kids know the truth. I know they miss their home and life here. I harbor her no ill will and hold no grudge against her for leaving and taking the kids, but it tears me up every single day. She makes no effort to change the situation one way or the other. It seems as though she has no plans to either. She has no other love interest in her life and is consumed with being busy with her career and our kids while I live alone in limbo in our home. She just went to Disney with them and my in laws. I'm taking the kids alone to visit family I'm 2 days. She is making daily plans for the weeks after we get back, not one mention of counseling or making any kind of decision. My therapist says to give her the benefit of the doubt and take her words at face value. I've put in loads of work to make myself a better person and I can see the difference it makes with coworkers, my children, and even crappy drivers on the road. She seems disinterested in any of that, and when I bring things up she is always avoiding the issue. Our anniversary of 12 years is in 4 weeks and it has been hard enough without my family here, but that day is fast approaching and with no resolution could be the hardest day of my life. One friend says to move on. I cant control her I know. The other friend says to force the issue and that she is doing a disservice to me and our children by keeping us in the unknown. I cant keep living alone, a nervous wreck every day with no idea of what may happen in the future. I dont want to lose my wife and family either. I really just dont know what to do. It's just really hard to keep living on maybes or who knows or perhaps. Every day is a struggle with no resolution. I'm thinking of forcing the issue when we get back from vacation, but I'll talk to my therapist first. Sorry for the rambling. Any thoughts, questions, concerns, or advice are appreciated.