Any hops in your fermenter during primary would be those that you transferred in from the boil kettle, and have already imparted their bitterness to the wort while boiling. Maybe insufficient bittering hops or underattenuation are to blame for the sweet beer.
Also, your beer should taste a...
If I'm understanding you correctly, yes your first runnings from your mash tun are going to be much higher than your target OG, the progressive runnings will dilute it until it ends up near your target.
Edit: sorry I was super tired when I wrote this. Your OG is based on your post-boil...
Did a little research on the extracts to convert to AG, here is what I came up with (@ 85% efficiency)
9.25# Pilsen (or pale malt)
1.025# C 60L
0.684# Munich 10L
0.5# C 120L
0.25# Biscuit malt
0.75# Honey
I will brew the rest per the recipe.
I just brewed a fruit beer with a wheat base with a similar grist. 50/50 white wheat and 2-row, made a very decent base for the fruit addition. I would recommend adding some rice hulls, or else the stickiness of the wheat might drive your efficiency down. You might not need the carapils with all...