I don't know you at all as a person, but if you're married to a woman that wants a child, and you don't... you probably should have had that discussion before you got married.
From what I can tell, you're just hestitant because of the stupid **** you see/hear on TV. But for all the thousands of teens/kids you see doing stupid **** on the internet, there are hundreds of thousands of good/safe kids you don't see. Those that do that nonsense and post on Youtube are numerous, but they are the minority.
I can't speak on the teenager front, my daughter isn't even 1, but I hope my parenting is high-quality enough that my daughter knows better than to do the stupid **** that kids do nowadays.
I have friends with teenage kids, and they don't do the extreme stupid stuff... they do stupid things like post videos of themselves lipsyncing on youtube, and have dumb kid-drama on Facebook, but that's just today's society. The internet makes everything public and immortalizes your stupidity. I'm happy the internet wasn't popular until I was older, because I would be effed.
All in all... it comes down to being a quality parent and teaching your kid to THINK. That's all I can do for my daughter. She'll get into tricky situations, I'm sure, but hopefully I've taught her enough to get out of whatever problems she has without hurting anybody or herself.
I'll echo what others have said about having a child, too. I can have horrible days at work, where my commute home involves me daydreaming about running people off the road, then I get home and my daughter smiles and *poof*, 100% of my stress and frustration disappears.
I was opposed to kids until I was in my mid-20s, and now I can't imagine a life where my daughter didn't exist.
From what I can tell, you're just hestitant because of the stupid **** you see/hear on TV. But for all the thousands of teens/kids you see doing stupid **** on the internet, there are hundreds of thousands of good/safe kids you don't see. Those that do that nonsense and post on Youtube are numerous, but they are the minority.
I can't speak on the teenager front, my daughter isn't even 1, but I hope my parenting is high-quality enough that my daughter knows better than to do the stupid **** that kids do nowadays.
I have friends with teenage kids, and they don't do the extreme stupid stuff... they do stupid things like post videos of themselves lipsyncing on youtube, and have dumb kid-drama on Facebook, but that's just today's society. The internet makes everything public and immortalizes your stupidity. I'm happy the internet wasn't popular until I was older, because I would be effed.
All in all... it comes down to being a quality parent and teaching your kid to THINK. That's all I can do for my daughter. She'll get into tricky situations, I'm sure, but hopefully I've taught her enough to get out of whatever problems she has without hurting anybody or herself.
I'll echo what others have said about having a child, too. I can have horrible days at work, where my commute home involves me daydreaming about running people off the road, then I get home and my daughter smiles and *poof*, 100% of my stress and frustration disappears.
I was opposed to kids until I was in my mid-20s, and now I can't imagine a life where my daughter didn't exist.