Maybe get a second immersion chiller, than set the first one in a bucket of ice water, that will chill the tap water, than the second one goes into you wort.
Pumping your wort through the chiller seems kind of risky to me, but if you are confident that your chiller is clean and sanitary if and...
My opinion on secondary is that it is unnecessary, but anyways... I added 2oz of cold brewed coffee to my Mocha Oatmeal stout that I made (added during boil) and it was plenty of coffee flavor for me. It really comes down to preference as far as that goes. The coffee I added was very strong as...
My batch turned out great. I failed at making my own candi sugar, and I was already boiling so I subbed in 1/2lb of corn sugar and a 1/2lb of light brown sugar. Its very clear and pretty well balanced. This is one the better brews I have made and it will definitely become part of the standard...
I had a 9.5% stout that took the better part of 4 months to carb up. Seems a little long but I would wait a little longer before you start un-capping your bottles.
I think the main issue is knowing the people you share your hobby with well. Alcohol is a strong vice in a lot of people's life, and the bible does speak about not being a "stumbling block". I share my home brew with a few people in my Church, but I got to know them well before we starting...
I primary for 3 weeks than go straight to bottles, and my beer tastes great. There is a huge debate over the necessity of racking into a secondary. I think racking off after 5 days is too fast in any case